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Team Canada

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Recently, Team Canada went up against a foe we never anticipated.

Alberta’s former deputy premier, Thomas Lukasuk, spoke of our historic relationship with the United States: “We feel surprised, disillusioned, and even betrayed. After all, our bond with the United States is deeper than just being neighbours, allies, and trade partners. Like no two other countries in the world, we saw ourselves as inseparable twins—two nations with shared values that were always there for each other during times of need.”

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/156nMB8Sjh/

We’ve been friends, trading partners and allies in war. We have relatives that fought and died alongside Americans. Many of us have family on the southern side of that border. As Prime Minister Trudeau said, we are perplexed.

Perplexed yes, but not powerless. We have been a nation divided since the pandemic, but we are seeing premiers (all but one) show a united front despite ideological differences. We are all Canadian and want to stay that way. Trump has stated he will apply tariffs until we are no longer a viable nation, at which point they will annex us as the 51st state. Like the Ukraine, we are a sovereign nation. We, too, will fight back as necessary.

The Prime Minister has secured a 30 day reprieval, by offering measures that were already put in place in 2024. The concession, I suppose, was agreeing on the rather juvenile term of “Fentanyl Czar.”

I consider this delay a gift to give our country, its producers, industry and consumers time to diversify trade and understand our options. In the meantime, many Canadians will still be shopping “anything but America.” I told my step-daughter as a teenager that she began with trust, but once broken, it takes time and effort to get it back. Applying that same principle to this situation may seem like an emotional response, but it doesn’t invalidate it. We are powerless in so much of this; a feeling of hopelessness can overcome us in the series of challenges we’ve faced during and following the pandemic. I think if we look back through time, we’ll find emotion has fueled a lot of our patriotic responses in the past. Emotion shouldn’t be the only matrix, but it’s good fuel. Like rationing in my mother-in-law’s Britain in WW 2, it can help us feel that we are “doing something.”

For now, the threat of a trade war remains, and I hope that is as far as it goes. (But surely nothing is guaranteed in a world gone mad in 2025.) The damage to the relationship may be beyond repair. The financial protest may continue as long as we can financially sustain it. We can shop Canadian whenever possible and choose options that are not American when Canadian isn’t an option. I had already focused on a few Canadian options during the early days of COVID-19 when I became aware of how much we rely on China. Our current state of affairs has had me expanding my list, so I’ll share a few with you.

Food

OLIV

https://olivniagara.com/

As someone who is lactose intolerant, and has high cholesterol, these guys are all the things. Butter (and other) infused olive oil and a plethora of gorgeous flavoured balsamic vinegars. The butter infused is great on popcorn and a Mediterranean diet replacement in cooking. Their headquarters is in Niagara on the Lake but they ship across Canada.

Peace By Chocolate

Yes, chocolate is a food group! (In my opinion anyway.)This is a group of grateful immigrants who lost everything in Syria and brought their skills to Nova Scotia. They always have some options that raise money for different causes, too, such as Reconciliation, Ukraine, Healthcare Heroes, etc.

They are 100% Canadian and based in Nova Scotia. Canadians might find this Canada Pride product particularly appealing right now.

https://peacebychocolate.ca/products/canada-peace-bar-3-pack

Harvest Meats

https://harvestmeats.ca/product/dry-pepperoni-sticks-375g/

Based in Yorkton, Saskatchewan, the part of the province WITH trees, we became aware of Harvest Meats during a search for gluten free options for a son-in-law. Available in grocery stores across Western Canada, from Vancouver Island to Thunder Bay, ON. If you’re east of there, Costco also carries their products.

Grocery Stores

In our neighbourhood in the Columbia Valley, we have no shortage of independent grocer options. Windermere has a little grocery store and the fabulous Hopkins Harvest, who carry local produce and products AND have an cute little cafe.

Valley Foods (AG) in Invermere and Fairmont Mountainside Market (The Grocery People) in Fairmont Hot Springs are two others. Look out for these little guys as they are often receptive to your feedback on what you’d like to see. Shout Canadian!

Costco, although there is an American branch, Costco Canada sources someCanadian products and some Kirkland items (like the T-paper) are Made in Canada. The brand deserves our support for maintaining their Diversity commitment in the face of so many others in the U.S. distancing themselves. Go hunting for their Canadian products!

Bath and Beauty

Riversol

Founded by a British Columbia dermatologist and among the cheapest medical grade skin care out there, Riversol will send you a sample kit so you can see if the product is a good fit for you. https://www.riversol.com/products/sample-kit

Marcelle

Headquartered in Quebec, this is a Canadian drugstore brand that performs well. Among their cosmetics, I really like their cream blush and have been using it for years. Look at that price! https://marcelle.com/en/collections/bestsellers-makeup/products/cream-blush-marcelle?variant=44208036970695

Beauty from Bees

Made in Alberta, they have a range of skin and hair care and their customer service is stellar. I’ve tried some of their serums, and a lovely lavender spray. The real winner for me is their mascara that doesn’t irritate my eyes like many other brands. https://beautyfrombees.ca/products/mascara

Rocky Mountain Soap Company

Started by a Calgary couple, I’ve watched this small business grow exponentially. My daughter is a big fan of all of their natural products, from hand soap to candles. Everything smells amazing! (Including my daughter incidentally.) I love their lip butters. They take a “licking” and keep on ticking! https://www.rockymountainsoap.com/collections/lip-care

Household

Two Canadian household cleaner powerhouses are Tru Earth Laundry and Hope Pods.

Tru Earth

This company, another start-up from BC, began small, tested the market and saw something people could get behind. Good for the environment, made in Canada and compact storage for those of us who have downsized! They did expand into household cleaners but I have gone with another Canadian brand.

We Are Planet Hope

These are three kids from the Hope family of Ontario, who have been working out of their parents’ basement. Their story is pretty inspiring and I’ve been using their products to great satisfaction for quite a while. Green seal certified, young entrepreneurs, good for the planet, and packages smaller than a deck of cards for the tiny home people like me. Highly recommend.

Clothing

A note on clothing manufacturing in Canada from Manmade boxer briefs. It’s challenging!

https://manmadebrand.com/blogs/gentlemens-club/todays-landscape-of-manufacturing-in-canada#:~:text=When%20first%20starting%20our%20journey,own%20backyard%20of%20Montreal%2C%20Canada.

Tentree Clothing

Now headquartered in BC, this company was founded in 2012 by two friends working out of their basement in Regina, Saskatchewan. As a bonus, this green-certified company plants ten trees with every purchase. They carry clothes for the entire family, shirts, jackets, sweats and accessories. Although items are manufactured outside Canada, products are ethically made across several countries, including China, Turkey, India, and Vietnam. All their factories are regularly audited to ensure compliance with their Code of Conduct and international labour standards. So, a Canadian company with products not manufactured or imported from the U.S., I’ll take it.

Friday Sock Company

If you want something unique and meaningful, these are your folks. The eco-friendly cotton socks are designed in Calgary and manufactured in Italy. With our limited manufacturing capacity, we need these kinds of “not U.S.” partnerships. One year, a friend of mine, a Down Syndrome powerhouse named Cait, designed their fundraising socks. They became gifts for all the girls in my family. My brother is mentally disabled, and I know a lot of his Down Syndrome friends. I can get behind these guys.

The socks are “odd socks” to symbolize the extra chromosome of people with Down syndrome and celebrate differences and uniqueness.  Each design also features 21 stripes to represent 21 chromosomes. Available in Men’s, Women’s, and Kid sizes.  You can see the DS/Friday Sock Company partnership here.

Canadian Down Syndrome Society – Friday Sock Co.

Morrison Rowe

After a skin cancer diagnosis, I began to search for UV clothing and got in on the ground floor with these guys. It’s far easier to find UV clothing from the southern U.S. states or Australia for some reason… I was happy to find a Canadian brand I could support. The clothing is designed in Calgary, AB and manufactured in Vancouver. They sell women’s, men’s and children. I love their long-sleeve T-shirt.

https://morrisonrowe.com/

Miik

These clothes are manufactured in Canada. The price point is a little higher, but they have good reviews and carry items for petite and plus sizes. Everything is manufactured in the greater Toronto area, so they can keep an eye on quality. They have been committed to staying Canadian long before Trump made Canada Made cool. If you can afford to support Canadian manufacturers and “slow fashion,” DO IT! Here’s a little bit about their story.

https://www.miik.ca/pages/made-in-canada-clothing?srsltid=AfmBOoqBVXV_-JxKGTWq1uSs-ZiuZPJNGRCp2EAEnCzQp6MVsXBNfDvp

What Else?

This is just a few. There’s been a couple of websites set up to help us with our search.

Made in Canada Directory

Made in Canada Directory | The Most Canadian-Made Products

They also have an app.

Made in Ca

Made in CA | Canadians, spend your money wisely.

I’m sure there’s more, and don’t forget your local farmers markets when they return. People on Bluesky are sharing their favourite Canadian companies like crazy. Tariffs will make life more expensive. Undoubtedly, some Canadian options will be pricier. But this contract worker with an unpredictable income will give it a whirl. Invest today for a more vibrant Canadian market landscape; it feels good to support fellow Canadians, eh?

Give your favourite Canadian companies a shout out in the comments!

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My Child, Me.

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My child, Me

Today I looked into the eyes of my child. (from an appropriate distance).
My child has children of her own, but today she was my child. She is in pain. I want just to hold her and hold her and hold her.

I cannot.

My child is a nurse. She doesn’t work in the city Emergency Department as often as she used to. The little she is right now, is enough to hurt a skin already scraped raw. She knows others are seeing the same things, doing the same things but doing them day after day after day. Her own experience hurts—her awareness of their’s hurts her too.

There has always been trauma in Emergency.
Emergency nurses know they will see traumatic things, even that they will see death. It’s an unavoidable part of the job they signed up for

But…

This is different.

As cases rise in our area and a more transmittable variant becomes ever more prevalent, COVID cases are pouring into hospitals in our area. And while age shouldn’t matter; (indeed, I said so near the beginning) https://pathtothepasture.com/2020/11/04/ageism/, there is something so painful about being a nurse to someone very near your age, knowing they, like you, have children at home. Knowing that in this wave, much younger people are in ICU. Knowing that much of this could have been avoided.

How do these people come to know the patient has children at home? These nurses (& their colleagues) get to know these patients more than they generally have time for. They hold their patient’s hands, sit down next to the bed and tell their patient they won’t leave them in their terror. As that patient slides into sedation, that same nurse may move to the far less human process of intubation. That shift from connected humanity is hard. So hard. Nurses and doctors are making these connections with their patients in ED, in ICU… as family members stay outside…hungry for updates. They connect with these families more than they sometimes have had to. And then they hook their recently connected patient to an ECMO machine, prone them, administer drugs, fight for their lives…often losing that fight.
This third wave is even crueler. It is traumatizing, and they haven’t rested long enough.


Then they get traumatized again. Leaving work, they hear people saying the virus “isn’t real,” “just the flu,” “only sheeple believe in it”…. “Don’t get the vaccine.”
Remember the story of the nurse waylaid by an anti-mask protest making her late for her ED shift? This kind of pain is visceral, and their fellow citizens are doing it to them. Some friends are doing it to them. Some family members are doing it to them. My daughter has been off social media for months because she can’t bear to see it.
These people are down, and you are kicking them. You are kicking us, the families of those in health care. We look into their eyes, and we see pain. These are not superheroes; though we value them highly, they are human beings…battered human beings.

They KNOW it is real; they KNOW it is bad; they KNOW the variants are thus far worse; they KNOW it should not have happened this way.

Somehow, the wearing of a mask became enough to make people disrespect people like my daughter. My daughter…One of the ones who will hold your hand in your terror if someday this virus reaches you and takes you down a grim path. One of the ones who will update you if someday one of your loved ones takes this terrifying journey.

A doctor I admire said this,
“For everyone yelling “but the Charter of Rights and Freedoms” – You might be forgetting the part it starts off with: “…subject only to such reasonable limits prescribed by law as can be demonstrably justified.”
There. Are. Limits.


Dr. Fung is right. The people you are endangering also have rights; people working in health care have rights. Your rights don’t supersede theirs. If we had all worked together to stop the spread, you might already have your lives back; Dr. Fung and I may be going for dinner. I might be able to hold (and hold and hold) my daughter.

Cape Breton Trail 2019

We could be closer to the end of this pandemic. We could have been like the Atlantic provinces, whose citizens cared for each other and understood that public health restrictions were meant to protect those they held dear and those they had never laid eyes on, but loved anyway.

I’ve shown you deaths aren’t the whole story. I’ve told this story before but seeing my daughter today brought it back. Although not the entire story, I’ll end with this. COVID has killed 23,062 Canadian citizens…so far. Many more have long term effects. We are a long way from fully vaccinated; some variants are more apt to cause severe complications and cause them in younger people. For perspective, these deaths roughly equal the total deaths from —Pancreatic, Colorectal, Kidney, Breast, Cervical, Larynx, and Thyroid cancers in 2019. Imagine if we could have saved my Dad, my sister-in-law, my friend’s brother, and other mothers, fathers, sons and daughters by wearing a mask, washing our hands, social distancing?

Imagine…

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Love Thy Neighbour

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With Christmas recently behind us, I’ve been reflecting on the one whose birthday we were meant to be celebrating. I’ll admit I haven’t been inside a church for a while. It may have more to do with a misalignment between how I and others understood Christianity than with any loss of faith.

I am no theologian. I count among my followers, atheists, agnostics, Muslims, Hindus, evangelicals and those without labels.

I was appalled to see my brother’s church among those that filed a constitutional challenge about gathering. The youth group brought my other brother food when he fell on hard times. They sang at his funeral. How could they get it so right…and then so wrong?

This church has been offering online church for months so I was rather blown away to be honest. My brother misses people at church but this aging man with a developmental disability UNDERSTANDS. For the record, Jesus gathered wherever the people were. The people are at home, or should be. WWJD in 2020? Zoom Church? I think so.

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/edmonton/alberta-churches-file-court-challenge-to-covid-19-rules-as-cases-surge-1.5830233

Jesus said, “For where two or three are gathered together in my name, I am there among them” (Matthew 18:20) Not four, not ten, not 100, not 500. TWO or THREE. If you live alone, gathering via Zoom WORKS! Stand down churches. Your larger responsibility is to your community as a whole.

There are lessons attributed to Jesus Christ that hurt none of us to consider. Whether you believe he is the son of God, a prophet or a wise man roaming the countryside, this one benefits all of us.

“And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself” (Matthew 22:37-39)

All of you…believers, non-believers, those of different faiths…

Love. Thy. Neighbour.

Thy Neighbour with COVID.

Thy Neighbour over 60.

Thy Neighbour with Co-morbidities.

Thy Neighbour working in health care.

Thy Neighbour who has been denied our usual grieving comforts and rituals.

Love Them.

On November 4th I asked for love for our ageing neighbours.

https://pathtothepasture.com/2020/11/04/ageism/

On November 7th, days after my daughter’s birthday, I asked you to love her and her colleagues. For Dr. Markland and his ICU compatriots, I asked my community to care for them. They are your neighbours too.

https://pathtothepasture.com/2020/11/07/our-greatest-protest-for-healthcare/

“We saw it in Italy with military trucks hauling away bodies, with Italian doctors and nurses having to choose who received care (and who did not) based on survival probability. Many didn’t “make the list.” These weren’t all COVID patients. Patients with other situations were hitting those hospitals at the same time. Triage, I imagine, was a nightmare.”

On November 11th, I honoured our veterans, many of them seniors, by asking my community to love these heroic neighbours, saying,

“As deaths in long-term care once again reach a crisis point, as we in Alberta break hospitalization and ICU records, there are undoubtedly some veterans or those who love them, among the statistics.”

https://pathtothepasture.com/2020/11/11/they-protected-us-its-our-turn/

On November 27th, I tried to shine a light on just how many of us, how many of our neighbours, have “co-morbidities”… how many of us are at risk.

“Dr. Hinshaw said that having a chronic medical condition is quite common, with nearly a quarter of Albertans over 20 living with a medical condition. (Almost 800,000 people) Ten percent of Albertans have two conditions, and eight percent have three or more—conditions like hypertension, heart disease and diabetes.

Hypertension is found in 87 percent of Albertans who died of COVID19. Almost 70 percent of Albertan men over 65 have high blood pressure. (My hubby, the moustache guy, is in this group). Having co-morbidities does not equal at death’s door.”

https://pathtothepasture.com/2020/11/27/club-comorb/

As we enter into a new year, hope lies on the horizon in a vial of vaccine. I ask again, “Love thy neighbour.” The vaccine rollout will take a while before it gets to all of us, and until it does, there continues to be a risk of spread. Health care workers and senior home residents come first, which will hopefully drive our mortality rates down significantly.

BUT

Many seniors and those with co-morbidities live in the community and will be waiting a while yet.

During this holiday week, the province reports approximately 1300 new cases. Of those, the WHO estimates about 5% become critically ill. We’ve consistently had around 1200 new cases per day over the last week or so. (Other than one low testing rate day) So we are looking at 48 – 65 people becoming critically ill each day. It is important to remember the cumulative effect. Those entering the hospital are added to people already there. Those in ICU will be there for a while; even once out of ICU, they will use significant resources. (See the November 7th blog for Dr. Markland’s overview of the possible resources required)

As of our last update a few days ago we have 921 in hospital (average age 63, range 0 – 104)

  •  Average age for COVID cases hospitalized with an ICU stay is 59 years making me REALLY excited about that upcoming birthday (range: 0-89)
  • A total of 1046 deaths. (average age 82, range 23 – 107
  • 23 is younger than our youngest death was previously…

The deaths matter. Every single one.

Deaths
 November 4thDec 31
Age 20 to 2924
Age 30 to 3926
Age 40 to 49310
Age 50 to 59823
Age 60 to 6926100
Age 70 to 7979211
80 +223691

While deaths in younger folks are rising, most alarming to me is that folks in my husband’s age group have now hit triple digits. And those “Aged” folks? The ones many don’t think matter, mattered to someone … and this is not an easy way to go.

And our neighbours working in health care…it’s gotten harder.

Dr. Markland’s ICU team in Edmonton is well beyond capacity now. Calgary hospitals are also beginning to see strain. He is regularly working 36 hour shifts. He is an empathetic soul. That’s a tough thing to be these days.


“It’s easy to turn this pandemic into numbers, but it’s so much more than that. These are mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers. That tickle you feel in your throat is how it started for them. Their death leaves scars.” Dr. Darren Markland

ICU admissions
November 7thDec. 31
Under 1 year 7
1 – 9 years  14
10 – 19 years 48
20 – 29 years 821
30 – 39 years1130
40 – 49 years2262
50 – 59 years41118
60 – 69 years56183

 Dr. Daisy Fung has been hurting from the deaths in the LTC homes she covers. Her tweets give us insight on how the world looks from her vantage point.

“I had to tell a child that they had lost BOTH parents today. That was the start of my day. There were similar calls made. People think Christmas is stolen bc they can’t go shopping? I break news regularly that Christmas is devastated for families, stolen from patients.”

On December 5th she wrote,

“Words I heard today: ‘I wish I knew #COVID19 was serious. I now know & will tell everybody.’ Said as I keep their loved one comfortable as they die of COVID.

Broken heart

Albertans need to get it straight that it’s serious, we need to protect our vulnerable. Now.”

Yesterday she shared her joy about vaccines for these people.

“Ended work for 2020 by giving orders for all my #LongTermCare patients to receive the #Moderna #COVID19 #vaccine. Ended 2020 with a prescription for hope, provided by a feat of science and medicine. It’s kind of perfect”.

 There are real people behind available” beds” and these people are becoming decimated by the constant struggle, the constant death of their patients.

If you can’t find it in yourself to love thy aged neighbours, your veteran neighbours, your neighbours with co-morbidities, your healthcare neighbours, I know you love someone.

Risking further strain on our healthcare system can affect any of your neighbours. It can affect you.

The same healthcare workers who accept COVID patients right now are those you will need if you have a heart attack, a severe car accident, a diabetic coma…that your child might need. While COVID mostly minimally impacts children, if they show up at an Edmonton ER for any issue, you want them to be cared for.  Note that the Stollery Children’s Hospital is using space for adult patients and double-bunking kids.

There wouldn’t be room for you to stay the night and hold your child’s hand (or puke bucket…let’s get real…been there).

A situation like we are currently experiencing holds potential to affect every corner of our community and our lives.

When our neighbours get cancer, there’s little we can do to slow the spread.

In this, we have an opportunity. A Merry Christmas. A Happy New Year. A chance to really matter.

An opportunity to save lives.

Loving our neighbour is such a simple way to do it. #StayHome #WashYourHands #SkipHawaii

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Club CoMorb

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We’ve heard a lot about COVID patients with comorbidities in the last while. Alberta’s government has shared data on how many people who have died from COVID also had comorbidities. An Alberta MP went so far as to point out that only ten people with no co-morbidities have died…

As if comorbidities were something rare in Alberta.

There you are, saying, “GREAT!” as you count yourself among the “non-comorbid.”

Here’s the thing.

My husband would have counted himself among those with no comorbidities back in late November 2003.  He had just had a physical and was given a clean bill of health.

On December 3rd, he had a heart attack at the age of 49, entering a club that, in our COVID19 world, has become just a little more undesirable.

The club is not as exclusive as you might think.  On November 20th, our Chief Medical Officer of Health told Albertans a little about comorbidities. It became clearer that if not us, many we love, may belong to Club Co-Morb.

Dr. Hinshaw said that having a chronic medical condition is quite common, with nearly a quarter of Albertans over 20 living with a medical condition. (Almost 800,000 people) Ten percent of Albertans have two conditions, and eight percent have three or more—conditions like hypertension, heart disease and diabetes.

Hypertension is found in 87 percent of Albertans who died of COVID19. Almost 70 percent of Albertan men over 65 have high blood pressure. (My hubby, the moustache guy, is in this group)

Having comorbidities does not equal “at death’s door.”

The moustache guy is an active Grandpa, goes hiking in our nearby Rocky Mountains, and often helps our kids out with household projects.

This project left him with some handy equipment…perhaps he can get us some groceries?

The moustache, and the man it’s attached to, have a lot of living to do. Chances are you know someone with a comorbidity that doesn’t show. It’s misleading to see “the person who died had co-morbidities” and discount the risk of COVID.

Canadians with diabetes are hardly a fragile group and include current hockey players like Max Domi and past players like Bobby Clarke. There are diabetics across the athlete spectrum.

Juno award-winning singer George Canyon is a popular fellow here in High River. He performed at a local drive-in concert with Aaron Pritchett this summer to raise money for the High River District Health Care Foundation.

George has Type 1 Diabetes.

All you need to know is this. The person who died has people who miss them. That’s all we, the public, should be focusing on here. Unless, of course, you have high blood pressure, diabetes and the like, then you should probably take extra precautions.

But so should everyone else, really.

Let’s take care of each other.

Dr. Hinshaw also recently reminded us that “Severe outcomes are not limited to those already at the end of their lives, and it’s a mistake to think so. About one in four people who need to be hospitalized and one in six who are in ICU do not have any pre-existing medical conditions.”

Dr. Raj Bhardwaj, a Calgary physician, seconds Dr. Hinshaw’s thoughts and says those statistics don’t tell the whole story. He says that some of the most common comorbidities in those who have died of COVID19 are conditions that hundreds of thousands of Albertans have. Bhardwaj says the cases and deaths should not be just statistics, either.

“People die of COVID19, not of their comorbidities.” Dr. Bhardwaj went on to say, “If you’re crossing the street and somebody hits you with their car, we don’t say, ‘Oh, it’s okay, that person had diabetes.’ It’s the car hitting you that kills you.” (via Jordan Kanygin CTV News Calgary)

COVID19 is the car; when it hits you, it could kill you.

“We can’t let the numbers dehumanize the people who are dying here – the friends and the family members who are dying of COVID” ~ Dr. Raj Bhardwaj November 2020

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They protected us; It’s our Turn

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Today we honoured veterans, including those from World War II and the Korean War.  I hesitated to intrude on this day with another blog post but watching the surviving veterans compelled me to say something about what we owe them.

Approximately 33,000 Second World War veterans are still alive, with an average age of 94. 6400 Korean veterans remain with an average age of 87. (Veterans Affairs – Demographics)

These folks are “old,” those that many in society devalue and say should stay locked up at home, so younger people don’t have to wear a mask into a store.

As young men, these guys went to war against a tangible threat.

The veterans interviewed today and telling their stories were young men once, as the ones we lost forever will be.

Louis Dautremont, lost in the Netherlands, age 25, April 21, 1945

As Robert Laurence Binyon wrote in his 1914 poem,

“They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old:

Age shall not wear them, nor the years condemn.

At the going down of the sun and in the morning,

We will remember them. “

My daughter bringing an Afghanistan veteran into our family truly brought home how young those lost were, how much life they had to live.

Some came home and carried on with their lives, though often not without significant scars from the battles they fought.  Globe and Mail’s Les Perreaux paid tribute in 2016  to 31 of the then 70 Afghanistan veterans who lost their lives to suicide after returning home, in his article The Unremembered.

I have no doubt we lost some the same way in those earlier wars.

Those that survived World War II and the psychological aftermath are among the seniors most at risk for serious complications and death from COVID 19.  

These people went to war for our country…

 to protect others…

 I think it’s time we return the favour.

Let’s protect these strong (but vulnerable) soldiers of our country. Let’s protect the partners who waited for them to come home. Don’t let them die in such a horrific way after what they have given.

To reference Mr. Binyon,

They have grown old,

Age has worn them; the years have condemned,

At the going down of the sun and in the morning,

We will remember them too.

As deaths in long-term care once again reach a crisis point, as we in Alberta break hospitalization and ICU records, there are undoubtedly some veterans or those who love them, among the statistics.

  • 217 in hospital (average age 62 years – range 0 – 102)
  • 46 in intensive care (average age 60 years  -range 4 – 89)
  •  7 new deaths reported, 383 total (average age 82 years  – range 27 to 106)

Pay tribute to these veterans.

Wash Your Hands

Stay Home if Ill

Sanitize Surfaces

Social Distance

Wear a Mask Indoors Where Social Distancing is Difficult.

They protected us. It’s now our turn, and our honour, to protect them.

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Our greatest protest for healthcare

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Alberta hit 919 cases today. We don’t know our hospitalizations or ICU admissions currently; our system is experiencing technical difficulties at an inconvenient time. (My experience with technical difficulties is that’s ALWAYS when they hit.)

We had five additional deaths reported…

 These deaths are a tragedy, no matter their age, no matter the circumstance. If you’ve lost someone, you know, it’s a tragedy for these five families.

Death is the most tragic part of this illness.

We know we will add deaths to our COVID total if this continues. We need to know we may have additional deaths from other causes too, unless we get this under control.   

Let’s talk about our health system.  

Anyone keeping track of your province’s Chief Medical Officer of Health (or their equivalent elsewhere) has heard about “overwhelming the health system.”

We saw it in Italy with military trucks hauling away bodies, with Italian doctors and nurses having to choose who received care (and who did not) based on survival probability. Many didn’t “make the list.” These weren’t all COVID patients. Patients with other situations were hitting those hospitals at the same time. Triage, I imagine, was a nightmare.

We saw it again in New York. Bodies were stored in refrigerated trucks when the morgue and funeral homes ran out of room for the bodies.

Mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, sons and daughters…in a reefer van

(via CTV news)

And here we are. We are talking about an “overwhelming” of the system here in my home province. The metropolitan city north of me is feeling the strain. As of a couple of days ago,  30 percent of non-urgent and elective surgeries in Edmonton have been postponed for the foreseeable future to ensure hospitals have the capacity to withstand any outbreaks.

Calgary, just 25 minutes from my town, is bracing itself. ICU departments are holding emergency meetings because (typical of 2020) ICU departments are already experiencing higher than normal levels of NON-COVID ICU admissions…and the COVID wave is headed their way. Of the 919 cases today, some proportion will hit the Emergency Department; will go to acute care, others to ICU. Again, our data has not been updated for current numbers, but this is what I have.

The age breakdown for total COVID ICU admissions we have to this point is:

1 – 4 years – 1 admission

10 – 19 years– 4 admissions

20 – 29 years – 8 admissions

30 – 39 years – 11 admissions

40 – 49 years – 22 admissions

50 – 59 years – 41 admissions

60 – 69 years 56 admissions

70 – 79 years – 49 admissions

80 + years – 21 admissions

(Looks like my husband’s age group is winning the ICU lottery…)

The last current data we have is 171 COVID patients in hospital including 33 in ICU. 9 hospitals have outbreaks.

Resources for ICU are expensive, but it doesn’t stop there for those that recover, especially older patients.

Dr. Darren Markland, an ICU doc in Edmonton, took to Twitter to share some information on COVID ICU admissions for older patients. (shared with permission from @drdagly) We know mortality is high for this demographic, Dr. Markland shared that should someone over 80 need ICU, their mortality pushes 80%.

“Consequently, they rarely are admitted to ICU. This means:

  1. ICU occupancy lags hospital admission rates significantly and is an insensitive metric for healthcare capacity and strain.
  2. These are preventable deaths that take a significant number of quality years with them. “

Dr. Markland also points to the weeks of treatment required for these sickest patients.

He talks additionally about those that survive the ICU and how they continue to need augmented support in the hospital for an extended duration. Physiotherapy, occupational therapy, and nutritional support. If not cared for, he says they can end up back in this rapidly filling ICU.

Finally, Dr. Markland tells us,

“This situation is preventable. Our hospitalization numbers are a serious warning that mandatory measures are needed now. But while we wait for direction. Please do not go to work if you are sick. No more in-person parties until there is a vaccine. Wear your mask around people.”

He ends with…

In the middle of this, people in healthcare are stressed by a government that has chosen this particular time to address health care costs. I’m a fiscal conservative; I get it. The old Alberta Advantage seems to be a page in history. However, our health minister appears to be hesitant to collaborate with doctors for cost savings, refused arbitration and ended their contract early. He’s announcing layoffs of the very people specifically trained to clean to COVID protocols (while hiring private folks without that training). It looks like he’s eliminated overtime at a time when health professionals need to use it the most, needing to cover shifts for those self-isolating, caring for kids who are isolating…becoming ill.

Before the second wave of COVID19 completely hits our health system, we have a group of fragile people on the front line.  

They are already tired.

Our government has put the burden on us to try to turn this tide. Many people posit that the government should be doing more. It’s a hard call to make. There’s no question the spring shut down negatively affected business owners across the province; many closed.  Most restaurants have done a stellar job of adopting COVID protocols to keep their customers safe, and very few infections have come from those types of gatherings. Is it fair then to shut down a restaurant owner, many who operate on the thinnest of margins at the best of times? Maybe not. I don’t have the answer.

Personal responsibility, however, has led us to 919 cases in one day. We don’t appear to be a very responsible lot. Why? Again, it probably relates in a big way that it’s mostly “old people” who die. Here’s where I say,

If you can’t get behind saving the lives of the aged, could you get behind saving the lives of the general public who may suffer harm from an overwhelmed system?

Can I appeal to you to “protest” for our health care workers by protecting them from this onslaught? Is wearing a mask, sticking to your own household, sanitizing etc. harder than walking a picket line? Maybe not.

 Is it more meaningful at this moment in time than honking your horn as you go by or clapping for them as they leave the hospital?

I daresay, your actions to bend the curve on this thing will be the single most loving and impactful thing you do for our health care workers.

I know. I love a couple and hold the rest in my heart.

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Ageism?

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It’s been a good long while since I put up a blog. I’ve had something to say but honestly was reeling at the idea that it had to be said. And it was going to be so darn long.

Let’s talk about ageism.

I always knew it was a bit of a “thing.” Sure.

But COVID has brought to light the fact that our seniors are incredibly devalued in our society. It isn’t helped by an Alberta premier who declares in the legislature,

 “It is critical as we move forward that we focus our efforts on the most vulnerable, on the elderly and the immunocompromised,” adding that “the average age of death from COVID in Alberta is 83 and I remind the house that the average life expectancy in the province is age 82.”

Factually accurate at the time (we now have an average COVID death of 82), it was nonetheless unsettling. That average age of death includes people aged 27 to 105, remember. Every one of them matters to me.  Let’s look at COVID deaths in our province. Out of 318 deaths:

  • 2 were age 20 to 29
  • 2 were age 30 – 39
  • 3 were age 40 – 49

Then we see things begin to climb a bit, around triple for each decade older:

  • 8 were 50 – 59 (Hello Granny18, mild asthmatic)
  • 26 were 60-69 (Hello Grandpa18, heart attack survivor)
  • 79 were 70-79

And yes,

  • 223 were over 80

So he’s not wrong; it does affect the elderly more than the rest of the population. Now let’s unpack,

“…It’s critical we focus our efforts on the most vulnerable, on the elderly and the immunocompromised.” Many people have taken that to mean that anyone over 60 should stay home for months while they blithely go about their lives. This guy. Stay home for months, stay away from our family.

The “elderly” go hiking.

Me too, because I can’t bring it home to him right? 

They attack me when I suggest those people have a right to feel safe in the community, feel that their community might be interested in protecting them as much as they are able, help THEM to continue living THEIR lives.  Yes, we’ll act responsibly in our actions to protect ourselves, but help a sister out, okay? I’ve been accused of being “scared” and told to “go hide.”

 I’m not scared when I put a seatbelt on, and I expect others to belt up too. I’m not scared when I don’t drink and drive, and I expect others to do the same.

To protect others.

 One fella posited that drunk driving killed more people than COVID has. He was in the U.S., so I looked up the U.S. numbers. 10,000 people were killed by drunk driving in 2018 versus 229,000 U.S. COVID deaths as of this writing. Why is it that people are okay with drunk driving laws but think a mask or gathering restrictions are horrific? Why? Because it’s mostly “old people” who are dying.

Damn it. Old people hold our history; they hold so much wisdom we could learn from; I love several of them and lost several “too soon.”

Who are these “old people”?

My husband is 66. Please don’t make him the 26th death in his age group.

Don’t write off someone’s Dad, Mom, Grandpa, Grandma because they are over 70 or 80 or 90 or even, by jove, 100.

70’s

My Dad, a huge volunteer with the Alberta Council on Aging while still running a company, died from Cancer at 76. The Premier of our Province presented him with a volunteer award just four months before he died. In the month before his death, he received the Queens Jubilee medal to recognize his efforts for his community.   I still remember thinking he had so much left to do.

My brother in law retired from politics at the age of 70.

80’s

Rachel Wyatt published her first novel at the age of 82. I have an article about her up on my bulletin board to remind me there’s still time to get my book published.

An Ontario man named Bill Wall began riding in the Ride to Conquer Cancer in his early 80’s. He rides tandem because Bill is blind.

90’s

Bill turned 92 this year. He is still riding in the Ride to Conquer Cancer, raising $21,168 for Cancer.

Byrony Burrell is a 94-year-old British Twitter phenom (@lifeofbryony) with 67,000 followers. She shares humour,

“If I could go back in time to 1947 when I was 21 and speak to myself about life in 2020, the talk of a global virus would probably scare my younger self less than hearing her older self describing talking to a doorbell, surfing nets and webs on an apple and typing on tablets.”

And wisdom,

“You know nothing about a person when you first meet them. You may see age, race, gender or clothing, but what does that really tell you? Nothing. Assumptions pop into your head because your brain likes to categorize things, but that way of thinking limits your outlook on life.”

100

Her countryman Captain Tom celebrated his upcoming 100th birthday by setting a goal to raise money for the National Health Service during the onset of the pandemic. The Captain walked the length of his garden back and forth 100 times, in 10 lap increments, assisted by his walker. He planned to complete the laps by his 100th birthday on April 30. His goal was 1000 pounds. Cute right? 24 hours later, he had raised the equivalent of 11,666 Canadian dollars.  As his fundraiser wrapped up, Captain Tom had raised almost 33 million pounds (almost 57 million Canadian Dollars.)

100-year-old Captain Tom was knighted for his efforts. The youngster who laid the sword upon his shoulder was the 94-year-old Queen of England.

Some seniors are in care, who won’t be able to hike, volunteer, write novels, join Twitter or even do laps in the garden. They matter too. We owe it to them for what they did for us before their minds or bodies gave out. My mother in law was a phenom, walking every day and babysitting Great-grandchildren into her 70’s. Dementia found her. She was still valuable to our family. We remembered all her years of helping us, and dementia brought us the unexpected gift of her talking more about the war years in England.

Will many of these people over 80 have died anyway? Maybe. But not like this. Not. Like. This.

 This is not a painless slipping into the night, and they deserve better from us.

Alberta cases are rising rather alarmingly these days, with Edmonton already cancelling elective surgeries as they near capacity. Yesterday’s report from our Chief Medical Officer Health told us we had 15 deaths since Friday. We added 581 cases on October 30, 525 October 31, 592 November 1, 570 November 2. More concerning for me are the increases in hospitalizations and ICU admittance. Alberta overall has 167 (27 in ICU) in hospital, 100 of those in the Edmonton zone. What we need to worry about is two weeks out. A majority of the cases have untraceable origins. Someone out there spread it, and we don’t know who they are or who they were in contact with.  

The young won’t necessarily be alarmed, but they should be. Although the young rarely die unless they have comorbidities, it does happen. Even those with a mild case are still sometimes taking a long time to get back to their pre-COVID selves. This thing spreads so easily. We have outbreaks in hospitals and nursing homes despite extreme measures to prevent spread. One nursing home outbreak was traced back to a family gathering. Dr. Hinshaw once said we shouldn’t fear COVID, but we should RESPECT it.

What does respect look like?

Stay home if you’re sick.

Limit your circle.

Practice Physical Distancing.

Wear a mask where physical distancing might prove difficult.

Sanitize or wash your hands frequently.

Try not to touch your face.

Sanitize high touch surfaces regularly.

It’s such a simple way to show respect for the seniors in your community.

 (We’ll talk about care facilities another time…)

Doing what's right, Health

The Kindness Project in Troubled Times

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Not long ago, I was blogging about a Kindness Project. I left off at Week 7 and 8. The next post was a bit of middle of the night COVID anxiety but I think it’s well time I started focusing on kindness again. I’ve been going over our weeks since then and reflecting on Jamie Thurston’s book, Kindness the Little Thing that Matters Most, and how it has lessons to teach us, especially in times like these. From where I left off, until today, our world has been changed.

Credit Michael de Adder Halifax Chronicle Herald March 24, 2020.
Follow Michael on twitter @deAdder

Week 9

February 23 – 29

 “Pay for Someone’s Journey”

By the end of February, COVID19 had exited Asia, travelled within Europe and had now landed in North America. At this point, all cases in Canada related to travel outside of the country. It became a certainty that I wouldn’t be paying for any journeys outside of Canada, for a while.  

My son and his family had a Disneyland trip booked for the end of May. If they lose anything in having to cancel the trip…I guess I’ll help them out a bit with that journey when they can finally take it. “Pay for Someone’s Cancelled Journey” is still kindness.

Week 10

March 1 – 7

 “Remember Where You Came From (and where you are going)”

This theme stresses empathy for the different places people might be in their lives. The young families, like we once were, the seniors in long term care as we will someday be. The same day the first case was announced in Alberta, the first community transmission in Canada recorded,  my niece had her first baby. I reached out to her and tried to support her from a distance as neither of us were comfortable with visitors to wee Parker. We still haven’t cuddled my great-nephew. We knew my brother, who passed away in 2004, would miss the opportunity for that cuddle. We didn’t think we would.

The age demographic of COVID’s victims across the world was heavily into the senior years. My husband turned 65 last year; I’m approaching 60.  Although not the highest risk, our daughter, as a nurse, was starting to think about the possibilities of poor outcomes due to age and the “co-morbidities” of heart disease and asthma.

We thought about the lost wisdom as so many seniors fell to the disease around the world.

Week 11

March 8 – 14

  “Be A Seat Vigilante”

 This section resonated in an entirely different way than it would have before March 2020. The book talks about giving up your seat to someone who might need it more than you. At this point, Alberta’s cases were returning travellers, but our observations of other countries made us wary. My ED nurse daughter had now asked us to stay home. She was actively planning for the virus to arrive and knew enough about it that she didn’t want us out and about. Universities in Alberta began to cancel their lectures due to class sizes.

“Giving up your seat to someone who needs it more than you”…started to become “giving up your activities to save someone more vulnerable than you.”

Week 12

 March 15 to 21

 “Apologize”

I had my final outing on March 16. My brother was having a procedure done at a hospital in Calgary, and as his guardian, I was there to support him and sign his documentation. My daughter works at this hospital, and she popped up to hug her uncle. I asked for a hug too because we just didn’t know when the next hug would be.

Alberta got our first case of “community transmission” this week, bringing anxiety levels a little higher.

On my way home, I picked up prescriptions to limit excursions, and the Costco was insanely busy. We were hearing about “social distancing,” and running the gauntlet to the pharmacy in that crowd had me thinking it was time to change pharmacies. I apologized as I asked people to move aside to let me through, and as I spoke with the pharmacist, I had a feeling that a lot of people would be subjecting her to some behaviour that should get her an apology. The stress was evident. I wished her well, apologizing in my head on behalf of any who would not show her patience over the next while.

People would begin working from home this week and attempt to homeschool their kids as classrooms shuttered their doors. Recreation facilities would close, gatherings above 50 people were not recommended, and a state of health emergency was declared. Our first COVID19 death was recorded this week.

There was not going to be much room for patience.

Week 13

 March 22 to 28

“Be Nice to Parking Attendants”

The message here was, “When we judge people by their profession, we cease to see them as individuals.”

By March 27, we had started to see closures of non-essential services. Who was staying open? Grocery Stores. Trucking Companies. Food Delivery, the people getting us fed and making sure we got our essentials. Suddenly, jobs with little social standing were “essential,” grocery clerks, truckers and delivery drivers were lauded as heroes as they placed themselves “out there” while we stayed safely home.

Be kind if you are in the grocery store even as you feel the stress brought by waiting in line, one way aisles and picked over shelves.

Buy a trucker a cup of coffee and a meal at a drive through. Give them the fist pump for an airhorn blast. (My husband was a trucker for a while. Trust me he LOVED when the kids did that!)

Yell, “Thank you!!”  to the delivery driver (from a distance) when he drops your online order at the door.

We are all in a better place than we would be if not for our new heroes. Be kind.

Week 14

March 29 – April 4

 “Speak Up”

Be strong for those who can’t be, and a voice for those who need it.

This week there were 20 patients hospitalized in Alberta, 8 in ICU and another death. It was time to “speak up,” and what we began saying was, “stay home if you can, wash your hands frequently, practice social distancing.” We were speaking up for our elders,  for our immunocompromised, for those with pre-existing conditions…protecting them by staying home.

Week 15

April 5 – 10

 “Share Good News”

We needed this more than ever, as day after day, we have been subjected to constant coverage of skyrocketing death tolls in Europe, New York City and a creeping of death tolls in Canada. What’s the GOOD news?

I guess the good news is the concerts put out on Twitter by celebrities and choirs, the puppy videos, the hilarious isolation challenges.

For some reason, more than one family member sent me the video of a couple of seniors trying to catch snow in their mouths as their garage door opened…thinking it might be an activity we could do. Lord knows we can’t sing.

The good news is people seeing truckers and cashiers recognized as essential, health care workers receiving ovations and lights and sirens drive-bys as they change shifts.

The good news is the creativity coming out of people stranded at home.

The good news is the discovery that the human touch is a superpower. We didn’t know it was a superpower. Now we do, and boy will that superpower be launched in full force when the time comes.

The good news is my son’s test for COVID 19 has come back negative. His wife and I have never been so happy to see a man-cold.

 The good news is…this will end, and many of us will be changed for the better.

Doing what's right, Health

Into the Fire.

granny18

Well 2020…

Occasionally nothing gets written when I can’t think of anything to say. These last few weeks, while it is true, nothing has been written, this time it’s because I have too MUCH going on in my head, and I haven’t known where to begin.

The doodle on this page was done around 1 a.m. as I tried to “capture” some of the thoughts clanging around in my head so I could sleep.

First thoughts were for my daughter, an Emergency Nurse, running INTO the fire of COVID 19 while the rest of us shelter.

Secondly, my daughter, a mother, working long hours and not seeing much of her kids. There may come the point where she will have to isolate herself from her kids and her husband. These little ones age 1, 3 and 5 will wonder where she’s gone.

Lastly,  the two groups of people who will influence the conditions my daughter will face.

Will she work in an overwhelmed health system making decisions such as Italy has had to make, around WHO to treat, rather than HOW to treat?

Will she become ill herself from ongoing exposure to the virus? Admittedly this is probably more a matter of “when” than “if.”

Will she be among the health workers that have…died?

Who influences these outcomes the most?

 Me.

You.

We can be people who chose to ignore recommendations from our Chief Medical Officer and don’t practice social distancing. We can contribute to an exponential spread of the virus and a health system unable to keep up with the onslaught. We can be those who pour fuel on the fire my daughter and her colleagues must enter.

Or, we can be people who chose to follow recommendations from our Chief Medical Officer. Don’t visit, keep our distance while out and don’t go out and about unless we need to. We can decelerate the fire my daughter and her colleagues must enter.

Being apart is hard, so hard, I get it. My further away grandkids were coming for their first sleepover last weekend. It had to be cancelled. An Instagram video call had to suffice. We have been babysitting the closer grandkids once a week and were really starting to settle in and enjoy this scheduled time. That, too, is gone for now. For them, it was a Facetime chat that will have to be enough.

The worst part is all the unknowns. How long? How bad? I’m a planner, and it seems there is nothing I can do.

But

I CAN stay in as much as possible, get my groceries delivered, do the video calls. It is my contribution to saving our health care workers from the horror experienced in Italy.  

We had warning; there’s no excuse for us allowing this to happen. As people, as a government, as a country…as a society.

May you all stay well. Those of us 50 and up have an increased risk of complications and death; those 65 and up even more so. If you have people in your life who are immunocompromised (as I do), they are also at significant risk, no matter how young they are.

As my daughter and I exchanged, “I miss you” messages, I promised her a party when it’s all over.

“You’ll come over for dinner; we’ll eat all kinds of “sh*t” we shouldn’t. You’ll drink too much wine and have to stay over. In the morning, we’ll have mimosas and waffles (with bacon!) for brunch.

It’s a date. We don’t know THE date, but it’s a date.

Keep her safe for me.

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Still Being Kind Week 7 and 8

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I’ve still been on board the kindness train the last couple of weeks, still a “Kindness Ambassador” as described in my last post, “The Kindness Project”

https://pathtothepasture.com/2020/02/06/the-kindness-project/

Week 7’s theme is, “Send Kind Thoughts”

I thought of several people in my circle who could surely use some kind thoughts…and then I “met” Candice George @candiceaartist on twitter. Candice is Wetsuwetsen. You may have heard of the Wetsuwetsen people in the last couple of weeks. Protesters. Against a pipeline. The media was focusing only on these protesters who opposed the pipeline and out of the chaos came a young woman attempting to bring a voice to the majority in her community who supported economic development and sought a peaceful resolution with those opposed.

We all have our reasons for supporting or not supporting either side of this issue and there have certainly been “unkind” thoughts all over twitter. Through it all, Candice has remained calm and tried to share another view to Canadians. I came to respect her and her approach. At one point, Candice was attacked by someone claiming her followers were white supremacists. (For real)

To which I replied,

“Sweetheart, I’m a white, rather supreme, Grandma to 6 grandchildren and 1 great-grandchild who carry indigenous blood. This Supreme White lady thanks you for being a positive role model.”

Was that kind to throw a lighthearted thought her way amid a trying time? Perhaps.

What was REALLY kind was her response.

❤ Snachaliyah “I honour you for honouring me!” Keep on rocking as a supreme atsoo!!

We were kind to each other. One “settler”, one “indigenous”… kind to each other as human beings. While presenting her elder’s side of the story I have yet to hear her swear or call another disrespectful names. This REALLY stands out on twitter, especially when in dialogue about such contentious issues.

Support her side of the story or not, this is a stellar human being, and she should be admired for her leadership. Be kind to Candice, or you’ll have to go through the supreme atsoo!

Week 8’s kindness theme hits closer to home. “Give a gift to a local school.”

I send plenty of money to local schools with 18 grandchildren passing through with various fundraisers. I eat a lot of cookie dough, popcorn, pies, pizza and chocolate, own a variety of cards and Christmas wrap. I wanted to do something unique to this week, though and chose Breakfast Club Canada who is active in High River. I had to fend for myself sometimes as a kid, and I know that there’s an impact when kids aren’t well fed. Turns out soda crackers and peanut butter isn’t exactly rocket fuel…and some kids show up at school with less than that. You can’t think of anything else when you’re hungry, so I’m hoping my wee contribution will help a kid through.

The book I’m hoping to publish by the time I’m 80 (It’s good to have goals) talks about the villagers who kept me afloat during my “fending for myself” moments. Now I’m a villager and I hope it helps.

Tell me what you have done, or would do following the week 7 and 8 markers. I’d love to hear from you!